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When you file a separation agreement make sure you are clear as to what it will mean. In some states a separation agreement automatically becomes a divorce after a set period of time. In other states a separation agreement will not turn into a divorce if one party reneges on any part of the agreement. In states where they can be made invalid, separation agreements are often just a waste of time, money, and emotions.
If your teen is telling you that they want to live with one parent or another, listen to them! Do not feel insulted if they want to live with your soon to be ex-spouse. Ask them why, take them to a therapist, and join them in the therapy to be sure that the need is from the child and not the parent. If it is the child's need and the other parent is safe, then let them go, they will come back. If you fight them they will close you off.
Teens are often reluctant to go on visits with their parents. Their peers are the most important people in their life and on weekends they want to be with their friends. Find activities that they can invite some friends to join in. This will allow you not only to spend time with your teen but to get to know their friends.
Teenagers have a difficult time when their parents are going through a divorce. This is known as the time of strife in their development, when you add in a divorce it can be dangerous. Take time to spend with your teen, do not share any information pertaining to the divorce. Teens have a tendency to act older and stronger than they are, remember they are children.
|Jennifer Mathes, Ph.D.|