Allowing children to have more or less time

Sometimes children will express the desire to spend more or less time with you. Allow them to do this if you feel it is what the child truly wishes. If you force a child to come every other weekend, they will begin to resent it. If you are the custodian and they wish to visit on a day that is not written into the agreement and you always refuse, the child will begin to resent it. You want some flexibility in your schedule and they want some in theirs. As a parent you will find that often you must be the one to bend.